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How to Master Self Love this Valentine’s Day, the RTT Therapy Way?

We’ve all felt it at one time or another, that dreaded feeling as the calendar approaches the 14th of February, as the garish red valentine’s cards fill up the stores, a continual reminder of what is not so perfect in our love life. Perhaps you’ve got a loving partner who cherishes the pants off you, but you’re just not feeling it, or your partner despises romantic overtures, especially on Valentine’s Day? Maybe you are single circumnavigating the wild world of online dating, or you are still healing from a tragic loss or recent heartbreak?

Whatever your love life or lack thereof, one thing is for sure, Valentine’s Day can trigger some deeply felt emotions, sometimes from self –limiting beliefs and negative talk created in childhood or a more recent event that left us bereft, lost and confused.

So here we are in February, the month of love, but instead of waiting for your partner to shower you with red roses or a lover to magically show up, why not start with a daily practice of self-love, honour and deep reverence, and master your self-worth, instead of reaching out for love to come back to you.


Here’s a few self-love tips to get you on your way to becoming a master of your own Valentine’s Day.




1. Self-Healing

Healing is an integral part of self-love. It’s important to do whatever is required to unravel any distraction, false belief, negative talk and judgement about yourself.

A Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT) can help you to dive deep into your subconscious mind to find the root cause of any negative judgements you have, and rewire your thoughts and feelings towards yourself.

All our personal experiences in life are dependent on how deeply we are loving and caring for ourselves. Promise yourself in this month of love, that in the name of making your life more loving, you’re going to start loving yourself much more.

Then, when you have come to realise your own self-worth through the healing process, you will naturally become the source of your own fulfilment, and then, you’ll manifest a balanced counterpart to provide you with what you’ve already given yourself.

2. Self-Care

Go to bed early a few times a week, so that you can wake at the crack of dawn to spend an hour or two in a self-care practice, without kids and other distractions. Find a quiet spot in your home away from direct sunlight and do something that nurtures your soul, such as meditation, self-massage with a beautiful oil, salutations, writing or just sitting in quiet contemplation.

It doesn’t really matter what you do, as long as you start a new habit of thinking about your needs, and acting on them.

When you start putting your needs first, you’re putting it out there that you recognise your self-worth, and that’s when life really starts to unfurl and open up its radiance to you. You’ll notice your stress levels drop, you will no longer have feelings of resentment or anger, and over time you’ll just naturally become more loving and kind to yourself. And in response to that, you’ll be surrounded by more love and kindness!

3. Self-Affirmations

Our thoughts play such a critical role in our overall success and happiness. If we don’t change our mindset, it’s easy to fall into negative thought patterns which will continually hold us back from receiving our heart’s true desire.

Affirmations are such a powerful way to increase feelings of self-love and self-worth. Start the day with some positive affirmations, so you can get into the habit of believing in yourself every single day.

Hypnotherapy helps to unlock any deeply held negative beliefs and thought patterns, and affirmations re-programme your mind to accept, know and remind you of who you are.

Try these positive affirmations and RTT self-love audio to help you on your way to finding true self-love and deep reverence for the wonderful being you have come here to be.

It takes up to 21 days to form a new belief. As part of your morning ritual, repeat these words over and over, let them trickle through your mind and become a part of you. So that one day, you just wake up with a deep knowing reverberating through your whole being, that you are loving and loveable.

  • I am completely comfortable in my skin. Others recognise how comfortable I am in my own skin.

  • I can only love another person to the degree that I love myself, and another person can only love me, to the degree that they love themselves.

  • I surround myself with people who respect me, are loving and honest. I surround myself with people who are worthy of being around me.

  • I treat myself like my own best friend.

  • I love myself more and more every single day.

  • As I love myself more and more everyday, the love in and around me is growing deeply.

  • I am open to love and love is open to me.

  • I accept love and radiate love.

  • I am not my size, my shape, my colour, I let go of comparing myself to others. I focus on the beauty and lovability of me.

  • I am loveable

  • I am smart

  • I am beautiful

  • I am kind

  • I am enough

  • I am more than enough

  • I am love


Download my free RTT Self-Love Audio to get you in a loving mood on Valentine’s Day (Self Love Audio)